Questions to Ask Your Potential Match

The following suggestions to get to know each other by Marjorie Buessing, a Senior Matching Supporter

Theses suggestions can be helpful for men or women who don’t know what to talk about with a prospective match. They work well for weekly phone calls or emails in the getting to know you phase or engagement period.

What are your unspoken personal 10 commandments?
What are 10 expectations you have about your spouse and 10 about your marriage? What are 10 expectations you think your spouse will have of you?
What are some of the needs and desires that were never fulfilled by your parents? What were your hurts and disappointments as a child?
What were your hobbies and games?
How did you usually get into trouble? and how did you get out of trouble?
What did you enjoy about school activities? Who were your favorite teachers and why?
What awards and achievements did you win?
Who were your close friends and where are they today?
What was your spiritual life like as a child? as a teen? as an adult?
When did you feel closest to God?
What are your political views?
Who are the five most important people in your life?
What are your views on aging?
Where would you like to live?
How do you handle your finances? Do you have any debts?
Describe your educational and job experiences. What was your relationship to classmates, coworkers and bosses? What are your ambitions
What parts of your childhood would you like to relive and why?